Monday, March 7, 2011

India is very confusing.

It took about 5 days, but finally we are well again.  And, now we are only a week away from our departure.  Our journey home is going to take a few days, with an overnight in Delhi, and a transfer in Finland (again), and an overnight in Paris.... but next Monday we leave Chandigarh, and the end of this crazy adventure will begin.

I keep thinking of all of you back home asking us that simple and very complicated question upon our return that you inevitably will ask:  "So, how was India?"  

My gosh, how to answer such a question!  What does one say? 
India has been so many things to us along this trip-- very difficult, very delicious, very teaching, and very absurd.  It really has been a whole circus of things.  But, sitting here on the couch now, with only one week left ahead of us, these are my thoughts: 

India is very confusing.  I honestly don't feel smart enough or educated enough to even begin to comprehend many of the systems at play in this country.  In fact, I don't feel I even have a large enough understanding of what's going on to even trust my own opinions about certain things.
All I can really do is state what we have been seeing and feeling, and leave it at that.
Lately, I think both Tyler and I have been feeling generally a bit sad and helpless about the level of poverty here.  It is a poverty that is so extreme; it really doesn't even exist in the U.S.  First of all, the idea of homelessness, at least as we know it, isn't really a term that can even be used in India;  There are indeed SO many people living without a formal "home"-- huge colonies of people everywhere you look, just in the green strips between the roads and the backs of houses; a great majority of the city's population would seem to be living this way-- living their lives, having children, and doing the serving jobs of the city (washing clothes, pedaling rickshaws, selling fruit house to house), so it really isn't the same form of homelessness you see in the cities of the U.S.  What really seems different, at least to me, is that the majority of these people are indeed a form of working-class people.  But it is as though they are living on a completely different economic scale; as if they are in a different time period completely where 40 Rs. (about 1 U.S. dollar) a day is a normal decent living.  They can't officially afford to buy a home, but food is cheap (lentils and vegetables cost almost nothing), and India is warm, and they continue to hold a place in society as the serving class, so life rolls on without the city feeling as though these people are "problematic" as most American cities see their "homeless" population, and also without feeling as though they need to help these people improve their living situations.  In turn, these people (in all of the jobs they do) are constantly having to try to get more more more money for everything;  everything is a barter, a scramble to get just a few more rupees; anything the help keep up in this country that is growing in wealth every day, and yet still wanting to pay only 35Rs (less than a dollar) for a guy to use his own human power to pedal another person across town.
I guess, what I am trying to lead up to, and what makes us really kind of sad, is that it really seems as though many of these people are working absolutely non-stop-- and yet, with the way things are here-- have absolutely no chance of saving enough money to have their children and families rise in class at all to be a part of the served population.  Everyone we talked to before we came, and everything we read,  gave us the impression that the serving class of people in India are happy to be serving; that it's their accepted role in life; that everyone here has servants, and there is nothing strange or dehumanizing about it (the way we, from the U.S., usually think of the idea of servants...)  And I have to say, to some extent this is all true.  But also what is true (at least from talking with and relating to the woman who serves the house we live in) is that she desperately wishes that she could somehow make more money so that taking her baby to the doctor once a month wouldn't completely drain the entire family's bank.  I think it is one thing to choose a humble and simple life and to be happy with a small income that helps you to live with only the necessities of life; but maybe it is another thing altogether when you are stuck in a social structure in which there is absolutely no way for you to break out even when you need it the most.
Anyway, growing thoughts.  As I said before-- I really feel like a huge idiot when I try to even start to analyze all that we have seen and experienced here... these are all just floating thoughts.
As for the water situation here, it is something that I truly don't understand.  From what I read, India is improving it's water sanitation.  But, it is hard for us to understand why it hasn't happened already, or why it is taking so long.  I guess, coming from the United States, where clean water is literally everywhere, it is hard to grasp how an issue such as wide spread water contamination can even exist.  I wonder, again, if it relates back to an issue of wealth and class.  Possibly because an enormous section of the population has lived without clean water for so many ages, cleaning it up just isn't a priority.  The wealthier class of people, who live in actual homes, have purchased water filters.  If there was suddenly clean water running through the pipes of the city, would the lowest class of people even have access to it?  I don't know.... these are, again, all just thoughts.

Anyway, off to bed.  Tomorrow is Tuesday.  One of our last Tuesdays in India.
  

Thursday, March 3, 2011

really?

Oh, India.  Really?  Is this some sort of final exam?
All this time, we were doing so well-- I mean, pretty much ok, with a few kicks and trips here and there.  But now, I feel like death.  And so does Tyler.  Violet is just barely hanging in there, trying to keep us all laughing, I think.
Tuesday night it all began; the horrible chills, the fever, the gut pains, the everything awful.  The three of us have barely left the house since then.  Barely left the bathroom.  Barely had a single bite to eat.

Oh, India.  We will miss you a little, I think.  But right now we are so missing home that every day of the not-even-two-weeks we have left is absolutely driving us crazy.  

Wednesday, March 2, 2011

Lunch with Anupama

On Sunday we had lunch with Anupama.
Anupama is a teacher at Violet's school.  She is incredibly nice, and was very excited to have us, and another little family from Violet's school, over for a East Indian meal.  
The other little family consists of a very nice couple-- Manish and Puja-- who have a little girl who is almost exactly one year older than Violet, named Olive.  They also have an older son (I think his name is Amrit) who is very rambunctious.  Anyway, Anupama lives quite a ways outside of town, so Puja called the night before and said that we could ride with them, and that they would pick us up at 10:30am on Sunday.  
Well, by 11:45 we were finally all on our way, in an extraordinarily fancy car, Amrit and Olive bouncing around willy nilly; no one uses car seats here.  I held onto Violet as tightly as I could, praying that she wouldn't get carsick on their fine leather seats....  
Finally we arrived.   Zirakpur.  It's a little community outside of Chandigarh, off the highway to Delhi.  It definitely felt as though it is a town that is still being built, with plots of land sectioned off with foundation borders in between other houses that maybe have been there for quite some time.  Kind of a village turned suburb.    
Anyway, Anupama and her husband live in this teeny-tiny apartment above her mother in-law.  When we arrived there was a bit of a colorful chaos of puppies, children, neighbors, and caged birds.  We all went upstairs, and began the afternoon with tea.  

When it was time for lunch, we cleared the floor of crayons and paper airplanes that the kids had been playing with, and put down newspaper.  Then, we all sat down in a circle, and handed around plates, and started serving up helpings of fish curry, chicken, rice, lentils....  And began to eat, with our hands.  Now, friends, eating with your hands is not such an easy thing if you aren't accustomed to doing so.  There is some method of turning your hand around backwards and scooping and pushing the food with your thumb, but I think maybe it takes a bit of practice.  The food was very good--  but very tricky to hand-eat with all of the thick sauces and tiny fish bones.  Anupama began telling us the differences between East Indian food and Punjabi food.  One fact of interest-- there is a lot of mustard oil used in East Indian cooking.  I can't say it tasted mustardy, but it definitely had a richness to it that we haven't really had before.  

Another fact of interest: Violet and Olive are adorable together.  They are certainly a pair.  They were climbing on and off of chairs, clambering around (almost stepping in the fish curry), and even though Violet doesn't speak any Hindi and Olive knows only a few English words, they seemed to be able to communicate in the wordless way that kids can.  If we were staying here for longer, I think Manish and Puja and their little family might become good friends of ours.  

Well, lunch ended, and the afternoon moved on, and we got back in the car to drive home, making one stop:  Walmart.  Manish and Puja raved about it, saying that it was brand new and that you could get all the best prices there.  It felt incredibly strange to leave the humble home of Anupama where we all ate on the floor, and then go straight to Walmart.... (India, the land of contrasts, strikes again).  Indian Walmart feels a lot like Costco.  You need a membership to get in, and most of what they sell is large packs of grocery items.  I ended up pushing all the kids around in a shopping cart-- Violet sitting in the front, Amrit standing up in the basket acting wild and grabbing things, and Olive hanging off the side, while Puja and Manish disappeared.  Then the kids started crying for their mom, so we found Puja, and then Tyler, Violet and I got completely lost and couldn't find anyone for 20 minutes.  Maybe, in some ways, a typical Walmart experience-- although I don't really know, since we never shop there.

The whole day was quite an adventure!  Now, pictures...  (click to enlarge)  
Zirakpur

The kids on the balcony; this made us nervous

Violet

Olive

Eating!

Walmart

Look what we found!

East meets West via soda pop


Saturday, February 26, 2011

naming things

This morning we were all sitting around eating oatmeal and coffee, and Tyler started asking Violet what names she was going to give to her various animal figurines.  Usually when she is asked this question she answers "Foot".  --And this time, at first, was no different.  What is the zebra's name?  "Foot".  What is the lion's name?  "Foot".  What is the rhino's name?  "Foot".  Even her wonderful cherished G-Raff she often calls "Foot".  But then when we started pushing a little more for her to come up with some other names, this is what she came up with:

Lion= Vikram 
Giraffe= Anupma 
Zebra=Snigda 
Bird= Nana
Rhino= Jahnavi

No Harry or Spot.  I think India is making its impression on her.


Thursday, February 24, 2011

shopping

Shopping in India can be quite fun, we are learning.  There is quite the range in prices at the markets and shops, which is why I guess it is so fun for us;  we have been able to treat ourselves to a few things that we normally wouldn't be able to buy at home.  Fabrics, bangles, kurtas, even a pair of shoes!  It's hard not to go crazy.... 



Kurta fabric 

bangles

kurtas

sandals

shawl

Monday, February 21, 2011

Shimla

The road to Shimla is quite a curvy noodle.
In fact, I don't think I have ever in my life been on such a curvy road.  The entire time--this way, that way, this way, that way, this way, that way-- making our way up into the beautiful foothills of the Himalayas.  Also, it hangs over a cliff (have you seen the show Ice Road Truckers?), and you never know what is going to be around the next curve-- busses, orange vendors, monkeys, fiats, children walking along with sticks.....
Well, friends, we learned something on this trip:   Our Violet is quite prone to motion-sickness.
She and I were in the back of this van.  She was so excited to be in a "new car seat", and was happily talking, singing, pointing out the window.  But her mood gradually started to change, and then suddenly I noticed that she was chewing on something.  A moment later her entire breakfast was upon us.  Oh, the poor thing!  We pulled over (somehow, we managed to find a space on the side of this cliff-road), and got her out of the car and found various wipes, water bottles, extra clothes.
The next three hours were really hard.  She threw up again and again and again as our car weaved and jerked around the mountains.  The only break any of us had was a one-hour snooze she took sometime in between vomiting and stopping for tea.
BUT, we made it there.  And Shimla, my goodness, is beautiful.  It is this very alive and colorful city that was once the summer capital of the British Raj (or something like that...  Tyler or Wikipedia may have to fill you in on the history side of things).  It has a bit of a Canterbury Tales flare with very cute little peaked roof store fronts, and it feels a little like The Sound of Music with gorgeous mountains and hills and scenery everywhere.  But then, it is still also very much India, with monkeys and fruit stands everywhere, and the working town absolutely stacked-jam-packed onto the hillside with billions of people everywhere you look.  We walked The Mall, which you get to by going up these two long elevators up-up-up onto the crest of the mountain.  It is this long walking strip lined with shops and restaurants, and is nice in the way that touristy places are with ice cream and a general mood of excitement and happiness to be there.
We stayed at this lovely little hotel-resort-spa.  Lovely indeed, although very very cold.  Shimla, because it is up in the mountains, stays much cooler than Chandigarh, which I guess is why it was such a lovely summer place for the British to escape the heat for a few months.  But, in February, it is still in the 40's there this time of year, and dips down into the 20's at night.  No snow-- clear as a bell-- but quite chilly.  And, as is common in India, heat and hot water were only running during certain hours of the day.  So we kept close and bundled up until 7pm when the heater came on.
The food was spectacular, as often seems to be the case in these nice hotels.  Violet walked all around the dining room, climbed onto a little stage, and flirted endlessly with the waitstaff.  She kept calling it a "funny place!"  and kept asking to see more monkeys and cows.
On our way home on Saturday we toured Shimla a bit, and saw some of the old beautiful historic sites including the Viceregal Lodge/Palace which is enormous and beautiful and up this tiny little road perched on a hillside overlooking everything.  It was here that many historical important event events took place-- but in my book, only one stands out: Monroe pulled out a Dramamine, and slivered a child's dose off for Violet.  We stuck it in a thumbfull of jelly, and she gobbled it up.  THANK GOD.  I don't think I have ever been so thankful for western medicine in my life.  When we got back into the car to make our way home, she immediately fell asleep, and when she woke up an hour later seemed to handle the rest of the car ride just fine.  No chewing or projectile vomiting; no eyes rolling back into her head; no sobbing; no lucidness.
Just wonderful views of monkeys and cows.

A few photos from our journey... (click to enlarge)
A stop for tea along the way

A truck!

Very curvy road

up up up into the mountains!

Violet and G-Raff, trying to stay cheerful

Shimla! 

The Mall (part 1)

Tyler and parents looking at a statue; Violet point to a pony

Monkey tree

The Mall (part 2)

In the hotel 

Patterns

The Palace

My sleeping baby, keeping her breakfast down :)

One curve out of 50,000

Fruit stand 

Going through a small town on our way back


For all of the Vickies and Vicks and Vickys and Victorias that we know

Sunday, February 20, 2011

GammaGammpa Sprague

Tyler's parents, GammaGammpa Sprague, arrived Wednesday evening.  Tyler and I had the very wonderful and very surreal experience of meeting them at the train station; two kind and familiar faces speckled among the enormous masses of people... I'm still not sure exactly how we managed to find them.  We took them back to our place and got to hear all about their fabulous India adventures.  Trips to Delhi, Agra, a journey to see Bengal Tigers, elephant rides, rug shopping, Jaipur, on and on and on; so many colorful stories and places that made us a little envious.  We always have to remind ourselves that we are indeed on a work-type trip for Tyler.  We will return to India again someday and see the sites, I am sure of it.   But, anyway, they were in good shape, and we were all very happy to be together.

On Thursday we tooled around Chandigarh a bit.  GammaGammpa brought so many lovely things from home-- candies and almonds, books for Violet (to add to her parade :), diaper cream and coffee and other medicinal items,  and even a couple of wonderful little packages from my parents with a Valentine making kit for Violet, and play-dough, and a beautiful sweater for me... (thank you mom and dad!)  We spent much of the morning just enjoying each others company, and then went off to the Rock Garden in the afternoon, which again was simply fabulous.  Violet loves the animal statues and all of the little doors and pathways.  We were stopped and photographed about ten times, so Carol and Monroe got to see a bit of that action...
The night ended nicely with dinner at the The Taj Hotel, the very new and modern and elegant hotel in Chandigarh (where they stayed).  They had a buffet, and Tyler and I ate at least two dinners each; the food was some of the best we have had here with Indian and Chinese dishes, and a lovely dessert spread with honey mousse and toffee pudding and various little tarts and cake squares.  
It was refreshing and strange being in that hotel.  We took cycle rickshaws from our house, passing families making bonfires on the side of the road, and then stepped through the doors of the Hotel, and suddenly we could have been anywhere in the world.  There was this huge glass elevator, kind of like the Hyatt Regency in San Francisco, and beautiful fountains everywhere.  A 5-star hotel, very very impressive.  Oh India, you truly are the land of great contrasts.
More to come soon on their visit!  But Violet wakes us up at 5:30am every morning now, so we'll save part two for another day.

A few photos... (click to enlarge)

Gammpa Sprage at the Rock Garden

Violet and her daddy climbing climbing climbing

Spring is here! 

Tyler, Violet O, and Gamma Sprague

We got to see the waterworks in action at the garden!